One of the biggest challenge which women of this generation faces is having a 'functional wardrobe'. I am talking about women who may or may not have families, they hail mainly from middle class or upper middle class families which have found a niche in corporate world. These women may have family to take care of, social customs to abide, rigorous travels to handle and might have to handle immense pressure at workplace. She is like a superwoman, and apparently the quintessential wardrobe of superman with a cape will not be a functional one for her. So here comes the concept for 'functional wardrobe' for today's women of substance.
I think every women should put a lot of thinking and heart in planning her wardrobe. The clothes need not be state of art, but they should reflect the identity of a person in a stylish way.
1. Willingness to work harder to dress up tastefully. This the first and foremost thing because of which most of the women wardrobes are a disaster. Every women on this planet wants to look good, but everyday struggle, just kills the appetite for daily fashion. And has anyone made of the note in the mindset common man has, people who are too dressed up are arrogant and 'bad'. Time to get out of all mindsets and make a silent vow to self to never live without style!!
2. Work wardrobe is an important part of every woman's wardrobe. We spent most of the time in weekdays in office, so it definitely deserves some attention. Ask any women about office attire and they will only count trousers and shirts as essentials. In Indian scenario salwar suits also fall into this category. What we miss out are things like footwear, handbag, accessories. These can make or break your look so they fall under your wardrobe essentials. Agree?
3. Time to sleep, dress to kill and look absolutely pretty. Can there be something more relaxing than going to bed squeaky clean and feeling all special. Make sure to get comfortable and luxuries or adorable looking night wear.
4. Rest of the day at home kind of wardrobe has to be functional and laid back. Nicely selected t-shirt and tracks or long skirt and nice kurti, the possibilities are endless. the mantra to select a day to day outfit is that in case you have to open the front door without getting a chance to change then the person at door should be taken by surprise how different you may look at home and not how shabby you can look at home.
5 Grocery shopping/regular errands wardrobe has to be very practical. This has to be something which doesn't need ironing and would be termed as appropriate even if you have to go to a local market. It should be comfortable and sensible; in case you have to life something heavy or bend down to pick up stuff(no showing off cleavage back or front).
6 Your gym attire should instill the feeling in you to look better. I have usually seen women wearing rags to gym, they apparently choose clothes which are over sized and ugly. On the contrary choose clothes which are well fitted, smart and have nice color and hue to it. The thrill to workout and motivation to lose weight and stay fit increases if you are al ready looking good.
7 At Social occasions which are more casual, have you seen some women wear a nice Kanjeevaram just because you are expected to wear a saree. Well those are the women who buy saree rarely, so they believe in buying rich and expensive sarees. Tone down and buy some casual sarees or salwar suit for such occasions. Looks that make heads turn is not always a good sign!
8 At Social occasions which are little special/grand in nature, I admire people who can experiment. Yes making your outfit look special is a challenge, in a party/function full of kanjeevarams, goergette, chiffon and crepe you need to be really innovative to make your outfit stand out.
9 Doing out for dinner/lunch with friends - outfit has to be trendy and according to the person you carry in the outside world. usually women of today carry a different persona at home(around family) and outside(with husband, colleagues and friends). The dressing up for dinner/lunch with this group as to be according to that. Its up to you to create a persona of a person who doesn't care about her looks or of a person who always dressed in style.
10 Doing out for dinner/lunch with girl friends - the dress for such outings is a perfect canvas to experiment on looks and trends. This is the time when you can give an edge to your everyday look.
Dressing up is every woman's interest and inclination. All it needs is a willingness to be thoughtful and tasteful. If money was the main criteria then we don't have seen so many badly dressed rich women.
Monday, November 29, 2010
Somberness....
Have you ever had that feeling that the world needs to end, or at least your part in this whole plotted drama should come to an end! It is at these times that we find all the reasons to convince ourselves that the world is no longer a place to breath in. You are ready to believe the fact that there is a better or worse out there after we leave our mortal bodies.
Well the same thought has been clouding my mind for a long time now. I think I have so many people I have to be thankful to for I have so much love and kindness in my life. I have amazing set of parents(birth and by law), have love of my life with me, have a rewarding career and a warm home to go to. Then why this feeling of sudden detachment. I have to sometimes pull myself back from the emotion that I need to flee away.
One of the reasons which has recently put me off this track is the social customs and setup. Don't know why but lately this social hypocrisy is something which I am just not able to take any more. The social double game happening around is making me lose faith in the very human sense and I want to break free. Why this cynicism!!
I get a sense that the world is going in ruts. I know there will be a section of people who will say they knew this years before and also there will be a group of people who will swear on their lives that nothing bad is going to happen. They have faith in goodness winning over the bad, but who defines the 'good' and 'bad', the society we live in; well the sanity of which is itself in question here. Why this hopelessness!!
I think learned people gave away the essence of life when they said, do what your heart wants and don't worry about the consequences. Because doing what others want is not going to help you anyways. The people based on whom all your deeds are directed will never be happy and in ignoring what you want you are making the person inside you, 'YOU' deeply unhappy. And when 'YOU' lose hope, it is going to take lot of time to get back the trust in yourself. Why this bondage!!
Biggest truth about life is that all attachments in life bring unhappiness. It makes you a weak person who is always dependent on others to make you happy. It turns you into a clingy person who like a parasite wants to add happiness in ones life by hooking onto other people or idea. Why this setup for unhappiness!!
As a human we are bound to lay out a life for self, which has all the things which we want or aspire for. Meet someone in life whom you love or emotional and if your aspirations conflict, then why is there this silence. The same aspiration starts looking like a poison which can rot life of so many other people. The once achievable aspiration turns into an impossible dream. Why this guilt!!
Why are there so many contradictions in life, why can't we live a life where each day is a celebration and every moment is something you will die for. Live a life on your terms and conditions, trust me at the end of it you will have lesser questions to answer to self and little guilt; because in the end at least you can say I lived my life as I wanted to.
Why this feeling of sadness!!
Well the same thought has been clouding my mind for a long time now. I think I have so many people I have to be thankful to for I have so much love and kindness in my life. I have amazing set of parents(birth and by law), have love of my life with me, have a rewarding career and a warm home to go to. Then why this feeling of sudden detachment. I have to sometimes pull myself back from the emotion that I need to flee away.
One of the reasons which has recently put me off this track is the social customs and setup. Don't know why but lately this social hypocrisy is something which I am just not able to take any more. The social double game happening around is making me lose faith in the very human sense and I want to break free. Why this cynicism!!
I get a sense that the world is going in ruts. I know there will be a section of people who will say they knew this years before and also there will be a group of people who will swear on their lives that nothing bad is going to happen. They have faith in goodness winning over the bad, but who defines the 'good' and 'bad', the society we live in; well the sanity of which is itself in question here. Why this hopelessness!!
I think learned people gave away the essence of life when they said, do what your heart wants and don't worry about the consequences. Because doing what others want is not going to help you anyways. The people based on whom all your deeds are directed will never be happy and in ignoring what you want you are making the person inside you, 'YOU' deeply unhappy. And when 'YOU' lose hope, it is going to take lot of time to get back the trust in yourself. Why this bondage!!
Biggest truth about life is that all attachments in life bring unhappiness. It makes you a weak person who is always dependent on others to make you happy. It turns you into a clingy person who like a parasite wants to add happiness in ones life by hooking onto other people or idea. Why this setup for unhappiness!!
As a human we are bound to lay out a life for self, which has all the things which we want or aspire for. Meet someone in life whom you love or emotional and if your aspirations conflict, then why is there this silence. The same aspiration starts looking like a poison which can rot life of so many other people. The once achievable aspiration turns into an impossible dream. Why this guilt!!
Why are there so many contradictions in life, why can't we live a life where each day is a celebration and every moment is something you will die for. Live a life on your terms and conditions, trust me at the end of it you will have lesser questions to answer to self and little guilt; because in the end at least you can say I lived my life as I wanted to.
Why this feeling of sadness!!
Thursday, November 18, 2010
Sisterhood of traveling pants.....
There have been countless quotes on friendship and how a good friend can fill the void in your life which sometimes even your better half can't!!
I am a sucker for movies, serials which talk about friendship. These depict kind of friendship which is not ideal or straight out of the books, these talk about everyday friendship, where there are elements of trust, fun, emotions, fights, arguments, hatred(yes hatred !), jealously, unconditional love, no judgment. In short the sort of friendship we all have in our everyday life. We have friends who we have arguments with and we talk our mind out to them, we love these souls for the person they are..and even though we might have difference of opinion, but despite given a chance we might not have even one thing changed about them.
These are the relations which we make in this materialistic, ever-changing, illusioned and distant worlds...so if these bonds survive these elements and continue to be part of our life, then these bonds are there to stay and nourish your life and souls.
you don't need to get acquainted to a friend..you can meet a friend after years and you wont need time to get back into groove, the chemistry, the spark, the love surfaces almost instantly.
i recently read about the importance of fellow friends in life of a women. yes women can have many guy friends but they need a confidant in a girl friend too. have a friendship bond like this makes women more secure and confident women. Its more refreshing to catch up with friends then to go shopping(which can have immediate adverse effects - imagine going for jeans shopping and long term - credit card bills). So friend therapy is better than retail therapy.
The movies/serials which i feel always makes my heart melt and miss my friends are:
1. Sex and the City - Does this need an explanation. The bond which these four friends share and the contemporary touch to it is something which every working women can relate to.
2. Desperate Housewives - This talks about the friendship which bloomed because few women have no option but to stay in a neighborhood. Despite their differences these women have one thing in common, they are married and go through everyday pressures of household..they can sympathize with each other.
3. Sisterhood of the traveling pant(Part I and II) - how teenage girls come up with this kiddish idea of sharing these pair of jeans. These jeans keep traveling between these three friends as they go ahead on the paths of their life. Its all about growing up and handling situations in life..becoming adults and what keeps us going is faith/hope(signified by jeans) which we share between us and which can take us through toughest of times.
4. Under the Tuscan Sun - story of a divorce women who has lost everything in life, as a last shot to life she buys a old/battered villa in Tuscany from all her savings. This marks the beginning of a beautiful story of how her life gets evolved. she finds a friend in a drunkard and failed actress who gives her mantra of life...'never lose your childish enthusiasm'.
5. Dor - This is a Hindi movie which depicts a friendship beyond territories, languages, culture. A friend can change your life forever, this movie depicts that in truest sense.
So Venusian need more emotional bonding and the commercial world knows and exploits it. Well I can see it other way also...these reel characters always make me realize the importance of my friends in my life and how i should always keep them close to my heart...so i keep the emotional element running in my life using these films. as far as these movies/sitcoms keep showing these eternal bond so beautifully, they have a consistent audience in me.
Three cheers to the bond called friendship...!!!
I am a sucker for movies, serials which talk about friendship. These depict kind of friendship which is not ideal or straight out of the books, these talk about everyday friendship, where there are elements of trust, fun, emotions, fights, arguments, hatred(yes hatred !), jealously, unconditional love, no judgment. In short the sort of friendship we all have in our everyday life. We have friends who we have arguments with and we talk our mind out to them, we love these souls for the person they are..and even though we might have difference of opinion, but despite given a chance we might not have even one thing changed about them.
These are the relations which we make in this materialistic, ever-changing, illusioned and distant worlds...so if these bonds survive these elements and continue to be part of our life, then these bonds are there to stay and nourish your life and souls.
you don't need to get acquainted to a friend..you can meet a friend after years and you wont need time to get back into groove, the chemistry, the spark, the love surfaces almost instantly.
i recently read about the importance of fellow friends in life of a women. yes women can have many guy friends but they need a confidant in a girl friend too. have a friendship bond like this makes women more secure and confident women. Its more refreshing to catch up with friends then to go shopping(which can have immediate adverse effects - imagine going for jeans shopping and long term - credit card bills). So friend therapy is better than retail therapy.
The movies/serials which i feel always makes my heart melt and miss my friends are:
1. Sex and the City - Does this need an explanation. The bond which these four friends share and the contemporary touch to it is something which every working women can relate to.
2. Desperate Housewives - This talks about the friendship which bloomed because few women have no option but to stay in a neighborhood. Despite their differences these women have one thing in common, they are married and go through everyday pressures of household..they can sympathize with each other.
3. Sisterhood of the traveling pant(Part I and II) - how teenage girls come up with this kiddish idea of sharing these pair of jeans. These jeans keep traveling between these three friends as they go ahead on the paths of their life. Its all about growing up and handling situations in life..becoming adults and what keeps us going is faith/hope(signified by jeans) which we share between us and which can take us through toughest of times.
4. Under the Tuscan Sun - story of a divorce women who has lost everything in life, as a last shot to life she buys a old/battered villa in Tuscany from all her savings. This marks the beginning of a beautiful story of how her life gets evolved. she finds a friend in a drunkard and failed actress who gives her mantra of life...'never lose your childish enthusiasm'.
5. Dor - This is a Hindi movie which depicts a friendship beyond territories, languages, culture. A friend can change your life forever, this movie depicts that in truest sense.
So Venusian need more emotional bonding and the commercial world knows and exploits it. Well I can see it other way also...these reel characters always make me realize the importance of my friends in my life and how i should always keep them close to my heart...so i keep the emotional element running in my life using these films. as far as these movies/sitcoms keep showing these eternal bond so beautifully, they have a consistent audience in me.
Three cheers to the bond called friendship...!!!
Friday, November 12, 2010
contd...random Ramble
as if anyone is interested in my random ramble...bt here i go again...
What's in this week:
1. Thinking thin - Got to tell myself every now and then that i am fabulous and am losing weight and looking thin. it works for everyone and i am sure it will work for me too...
2. Taking care of skin - lately my skin has been behaving crazy, with painful ache all over my cheeks n chin. problem is i hv been ignoring it also, just washing face twice a day(**sheepishly admitting sometimes skipping night routine). Will do facial every 3 days and will apply clay mask every alternate day, i am sure this ache will be gone soon. contemplating on facial...bt from a place which specializes in facials on a acne prone skin.
3. Exercise - got to do at least 30 min exercise everyday...
4. Waking up early - will start with 10 min each 3 days. half hour and I can accommodate my morning exercise.
What's out this week:
1. Greasy Food - no matter everyone in house in having it, i am not going to eat greasy food
2. Sugar intake - Got to stop eating sweets and frequency of tea(i think i already do that, occasional splurges are the killer.
3. Inhibitions to travel alone - 2.5 months in Bangalore i still have inhibitions in traveling alone. this weekend i will shun these inhibitions and go to MG Road...yeah for me...
4. Keeping room unkempt - yes i love throwing things around and it is so convenient(hubby also pampers me as he doesn't seem to mind my carelessness)...gt to inculcate more aesthetic sense...
Last 2 weeks have passed by in a blink. with my parents in Bangalore, most of time was spent in chatting and being at home. Hope they had a nice time here, i miss them....a lot !!!
What's in this week:
1. Thinking thin - Got to tell myself every now and then that i am fabulous and am losing weight and looking thin. it works for everyone and i am sure it will work for me too...
2. Taking care of skin - lately my skin has been behaving crazy, with painful ache all over my cheeks n chin. problem is i hv been ignoring it also, just washing face twice a day(**sheepishly admitting sometimes skipping night routine). Will do facial every 3 days and will apply clay mask every alternate day, i am sure this ache will be gone soon. contemplating on facial...bt from a place which specializes in facials on a acne prone skin.
3. Exercise - got to do at least 30 min exercise everyday...
4. Waking up early - will start with 10 min each 3 days. half hour and I can accommodate my morning exercise.
What's out this week:
1. Greasy Food - no matter everyone in house in having it, i am not going to eat greasy food
2. Sugar intake - Got to stop eating sweets and frequency of tea(i think i already do that, occasional splurges are the killer.
3. Inhibitions to travel alone - 2.5 months in Bangalore i still have inhibitions in traveling alone. this weekend i will shun these inhibitions and go to MG Road...yeah for me...
4. Keeping room unkempt - yes i love throwing things around and it is so convenient(hubby also pampers me as he doesn't seem to mind my carelessness)...gt to inculcate more aesthetic sense...
Last 2 weeks have passed by in a blink. with my parents in Bangalore, most of time was spent in chatting and being at home. Hope they had a nice time here, i miss them....a lot !!!
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